Individual Coaching

Professional Coaching: Are others holding you back?

As a high-achieving individual, you likely experience frustration when others don’t seem to share your efficacy and drive. You wonder why it takes others days to accomplish tasks that you complete in an hour. Why can’t people see what needs to be done and take initiative? Even when you provide clear direction, those on your team seem to flounder. Your ability to set and achieve goals motivates you, but it can also feel isolating when others don’t keep pace.

Your primary concern is that your frustration with others’ is creating a chilly work environment, which can be a barrier to effective communication and collaboration. You genuinely care about creating a culture that empowers through mutual respect and a sense of belonging, but despite your best efforts the obstacles seem to be building.

In 8-12 sessions I will identify and clarify the issues on your team, and give you the tools to radically transform your work environment. I will provide a framework for you to run with; expanding your emotional intelligence into the relational sphere. Here’s a hint: the tools you used to master the physical world don’t work in the relational realm and business is a network of relationships. Our work will enable you to motivate and inspire your team while maintaining a positive, productive and efficient work environment.

Relationship Coaching: Is Your Relationship As Exciting As Every Other Aspect of Your Life?

Something doesn’t quite add up. You have good relationships and plenty of them but there is an itch you just can’t seem to scratch. While you have built connections, you don’t feel satisfied unless your out there slaying the world. You pride yourself on prioritizing work and/or play, and if you’re really honest, relationships often feel a bit like an anchor weighing you down, not exactly a waste of time but like a chore. When you could be spending time on the slopes, at the gym, or inventing the next best thing for the world to chew on… a meaningful or difficult conversation hits low on the list of priorities.

It sounds like you’re experiencing a disconnect between your drive for excellence and your desire for fulfilling relationships. However, this imbalance might be contributing to the underlying itch. When your focus is constantly on achieving goals, it’s easy to neglect the emotional nourishment that comes from meaningful relationships. Your biggest problem is that you don’t see the problem and the solution doesn’t interest you.

The feeling of relationships as “anchors” suggests a subtle resistance to intimacy and vulnerability. While relationships require effort and commitment, they shouldn’t feel like a burden. The feeling of being weighed down could stem from unconscious motivators:

Fear of Intimacy: A deep-seated fear of emotional vulnerability or dependence.

Unresolved past relationship issues: Past negative experiences may be influencing your current perceptions of relationships.

Perfectionism: An unrealistic expectation that relationships should be effortless and devoid of conflict.

It’s important to remember that healthy relationships are not static. They require ongoing effort, communication, and a willingness to grow and evolve together.

Beyond personal and professional success, true fulfillment comes from mastering emotional intelligence. If you’re ready to develop the relational technology necessary to thrive in relationships too, let’s get started today.

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